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The feeling of an introvert

How should I start this? Okay, me being an introvert, I know how it feels when someone says “MAN YOU ARE AN INTROVERTL”. It seriously sucks. Introvert is the most misunderstood word in English dictionary. Actual meaning is “Introverts are people, who avoid large groups of people around them, feeling more energized by time alone”. This doesn’t mean they hate, talking to or interacting with people. They just gain energy from themselves unlike extroverts who gain or absorb energy from surroundings and thus require social interaction.

I will explain this complex character of a person in simple words. Let us assume that an introvert is in a shell. Shell denotes that only some people can enter into it and talk to him.  Area of the shell is also limited. This means that key to open the shell is with limited persons. Am I clear? I hope so.



Now let us see why someone turns out to be an introvert?

We know that our personalities are shaped during our childhood. It depends on our parents, siblings, friends, teachers etc..  During my childhood I never interacted with new people or to be simple I was never allowed to. Parents taught me “don’t talk to strangers “. I took this pretty seriously .it was difficult for me to find new friends. Other problem was I lost my friends during my schooling. The reasons were many like they shifting to other schools, transfer of my friends parents to other cities etc..
This had long lasting effect on me. I couldn’t make new friends L.so naturally I am a bit introvert now.

Are introverts effected in this competitive world where socializing with people is important?

My answer is absolute “NO”. It will not have any effect on his/her career. For normal people (extroverts) talking to people, giving seminars will come to them naturally. For us we need a bit of preparation.  We need to sit alone, think about subjects we need to give a presentation tomorrow. Then the next day we will nail it. It will be a fabulous presentation by us.

Are introverts happy?

From my personal experience yes we are “HAPPY”. One important observation which normal people should make is that we (introverts) don’t require many friends. We give importance to deep relationships with small number of people rather than having many friends. By spending quality time with people we love we derive happiness from thatJ.
Many people who are called introverts by normal people are not completely introvert. They have their close knit circle of friends with whom they share EVERYTHING. They lead a happy life with people whom they love.

How to interact with an introvert?

Just because someone is introverted doesn’t mean they don’t like company. For them interaction is expensive which consumes their energy. They will not talk on anything which doesn’t interest them. This is where normal people will feel that he/she is rude.  Don’t take their silence as an insult.
Here’s what u do:
Say hello or something and show that u recognized their presence. Introverts will never love to start a conversation. If someone does start a conversation they will for sure interact with you in a friendly manner. They will speak their mind without any hesitation. Next time they will have the guts to start or make a conversation with you. Don’t demand to spend their (introverts) energy on you when it’s not particularly needed. They will give you when it is required. U need not ask for attention. They don’t express their feelings. They are good listeners.  You should be good enough to understand the way they express their feelings. This is how it works J

Feeling of an introvert can be better understood when expressed in the words of an inert gas:

I feel like krypton, when people think I am rude because they fail to get the kind of reaction they had wanted from me in some context, just like people give up on krypton for being completely nonreactive. I feel frustrated when I cannot explain to them, that just because I am unable to express something that I feel, doesn't mean that I don't feel it at all!
I feel like Xenon, when once in a while, out of the blue, someone understands and respects my way of speech and living. Xenon then reacts with the very compatible flourine to form several compounds. Yayy. J
I feel like Helium, when people understand my silence more than my words. Because even though helium does not react with many elements, the ones that know its importance will agree that it is irreplaceable.
In conclusion introversion should neither be celebrated nor lamented. Rather, it should be simply understood. Introverts should find the right balance between social time and alone time. They should learn how to live in this world full of extroverts. They should try to overcome introversion if there is any possibility. And extroverts reading this article should understand that introversion is not a disease or something, it’s just a complexity present in the human race. That’s it folks. Be sure to hug your introverts today J.



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