How should I start this? Okay, me being an
introvert, I know how it feels when someone says “MAN YOU ARE AN INTROVERTL”.
It seriously sucks. Introvert is the most misunderstood word in English
dictionary. Actual meaning is “Introverts are people, who avoid large groups of
people around them, feeling more energized by time alone”. This doesn’t mean
they hate, talking to or interacting with people. They just gain energy from
themselves unlike extroverts who gain or absorb energy from surroundings and
thus require social interaction.
I will explain this complex character of a person in
simple words. Let us assume that an introvert is in a shell. Shell denotes that
only some people can enter into it and talk to him. Area of the shell is also limited. This means
that key to open the shell is with limited persons. Am I clear? I hope so.
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Now
let us see why someone turns out to be an introvert?
We know that our personalities are shaped during our
childhood. It depends on our parents, siblings, friends, teachers etc.. During my childhood I never interacted with
new people or to be simple I was never allowed to. Parents taught me “don’t
talk to strangers “. I took this pretty seriously .it was difficult for me to
find new friends. Other problem was I lost my friends during my schooling. The
reasons were many like they shifting to other schools, transfer of my friends
parents to other cities etc..
This had long lasting effect on me. I couldn’t make
new friends L.so
naturally I am a bit introvert now.
Are
introverts effected in this competitive world where socializing with people is
important?
My answer is absolute “NO”. It will not have any
effect on his/her career. For normal people (extroverts) talking to people,
giving seminars will come to them naturally. For us we need a bit of
preparation. We need to sit alone, think
about subjects we need to give a presentation tomorrow. Then the next day we
will nail it. It will be a fabulous presentation by us.
Are
introverts happy?
From my personal experience yes we are “HAPPY”. One
important observation which normal people should make is that we (introverts)
don’t require many friends. We give importance to deep relationships with small
number of people rather than having many friends. By spending quality time with
people we love we derive happiness from thatJ.
Many people who are called introverts by normal
people are not completely introvert. They have their close knit circle of
friends with whom they share EVERYTHING. They lead a happy life with people
whom they love.
How
to interact with an introvert?
Just because someone is introverted doesn’t mean
they don’t like company. For them interaction is expensive which consumes their
energy. They will not talk on anything which doesn’t interest them. This is
where normal people will feel that he/she is rude. Don’t take their silence as an insult.
Here’s what u do:
Say hello or something and show that u recognized
their presence. Introverts will never love to start a conversation. If someone
does start a conversation they will for sure interact with you in a friendly
manner. They will speak their mind without any hesitation. Next time they will
have the guts to start or make a conversation with you. Don’t demand to spend
their (introverts) energy on you when it’s not particularly needed. They will
give you when it is required. U need not ask for attention. They don’t express
their feelings. They are good listeners.
You should be good enough to understand the way they express their feelings.
This is how it works J
Feeling
of an introvert can be better understood when expressed in the words of an
inert gas:
I feel like krypton, when
people think I am rude because they fail to get the kind of reaction they had
wanted from me in some context, just like people give up on krypton for being
completely nonreactive. I feel frustrated when I cannot explain to them, that
just because I am unable to express something that I feel, doesn't mean that I
don't feel it at all!
I feel like Xenon, when
once in a while, out of the blue, someone understands and respects my way of
speech and living. Xenon then reacts with the very compatible flourine to form
several compounds. Yayy. J
I feel like Helium, when
people understand my silence more than my words. Because even though
helium does not react with many elements, the ones that know its importance
will agree that it is irreplaceable.
In conclusion introversion should neither be
celebrated nor lamented. Rather, it should be simply understood. Introverts
should find the right balance between social time and alone time. They should
learn how to live in this world full of extroverts. They should try to overcome
introversion if there is any possibility. And extroverts reading this article
should understand that introversion is not a disease or something, it’s just a
complexity present in the human race. That’s it folks. Be sure to hug your
introverts today J.
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